If you google parenting styles you will find millions and millions of links to a variety of parenting styles.
There is the helicopter parent, the tiger mom, the free-range parents (not to be confused with the hippy mom) or you could be an elephant or maybe even a cow. We are no longer just moms and dads. Every decision we make, everything our children do is analysed, checked and put into one box or another. We are constantly trying to find, misguided, justification for the way we chose to raise our children. Before we have kids we decide we want to be free-range or tigers but then we actually birth the child and suddenly you turn into a helicopter elephant. You are suddenly at war with yourself – I don’t want to be the hippy mom, the tiger mom seems to have it all together or the elephants are having a lot more fun than the cows – I want to be one of them.
The problem with all of this is that none of it matters. It honestly doesn’t matter what parenting style you have or if you even have a style. Here’s why..
Cows can turn into elephants. Parenting often changes when the needs of your child change or when you, as a parent, change. You may start out as a cow but may discover that you are more of a tiger. So putting yourself into one box never works.
Tigers can give birth to calves. Every child is different. What works for one child won’t work for another child. You need to adjust, change and evolve to find a way that bests suits you and your child.
People will judge you regardless. Sounds harsh but its true. People judge other people all the time, it happens, it is who we are as the human race. However you chose to raise your child, someone will judge you, probably a few people actually. So it doesn’t really matter in the bigger scheme of things what you chose.
Parenting is not always a walk in the park, don’t add more stress by trying to be what you aren’t or what you think you should be. Just parent your children the best you can.