Would you like the person you were? Or would you hate that girl/guy? What advice would you give yourself that would shape/help or change the person you are today OR advice that would change the course of your life so you do not end up here and now?
10 years ago I was 20. In my second year of studying Hotel Management at Technikon. I was doing what most students too – waitressing, partying and attempting to pass in between.
I also started my first of two 6 month in service training at a hotel. It was a fun 6 months but I grew up fast in those 6 months. A week before my training was up I came face to face with a jealous girlfriend. I was terrified. She was hard core and I was not. After the whole terrifying ordeal I went home and ate an ENTIRE tub of Bar-One ice cream – it was the first and last time I have ever done that. I was in shock and the sugar helped!! She got what she wanted though – he proposed a week later. They were married and 6 months later divorced.
Ok back to the point
Would I like the person I was then?
Possible although I was the smart one. The one who got the good marks. The one who was always chosen to do things. I was, by no stretch, of the imagination the favourite. I attended a very conservative mainly Afrikaans institution and I am a rather liberal English speaking girl who has no issues voicing her opinion. This was not a quality they found endearing. We were a small class and the gap between me and the rest was big – so I dont think they liked me a whole lot. I was also exceptionally naive and when I look back that quality irratates me about myself.
What advice would I give?
Its the same advice I would give any person now – young or old. Trust yourself. I didnt. I was confident in every way except in making choices that effected me on a personal level. Its taken me almost 10 years to learn that lesson and get it right.
I would also possible tell her to stay away from men with psycho girlfriends! And not to get drunk at work then tell your line manager you are drunk! Mainly because he may no fire you but will try grope you instead!
I would also tell her not to drive drunk – spinning your car and living to tell the tale is NOT something to be proud of.
I would tell her to pay more attention in cooking class and French class. Both are handy things to know how to do.
Had I received that advice I wouldnt have been where I am today. I wouldnt have lived through the things I did 10 years ago. I wouldnt have felt all the things I did then.
And I wouldnt have missed out on any of it!
Picture one was me at my 21st (I couldnt find pics of the year I was 20) and picture 2 was at our final technikon dinner the same year.