Currently on SABC 3 we are watching the last of Oprahs shows where she is remembering memorable moments.
It’s actually rather nice to be honest.
Anyway last night she had Toni Morrison on and she said something that made me think.
She said “when your child walks into the room how do you look at them”
And then went on to say that as parents when our children walk in we are generally checking to see if they have a jacket on, the right clothes, if their clothes are clean etc. Which means we are looking at them critically.
Every morning when my kids walk into our room – mainly to see Jack – I ask “What’s wrong?”
I am almost expecting there to be an issue – a missing sock or a lost jacket or an argument that needs reffing.
Most of the time when I see them I am reminding them to blow their nose, put their slippers on, not to mess crumbs or leave their glass there.
I could argue that their nose needs to be blown or they will get a cold if they don’t put their slippers on etc etc but is this affecting the way my kids respond to me? Will they remember me as always barking orders? Will they think of me as looking at them critically?
Maybe before I start barking orders I need to stop, smile at them and then carry on?
It really made me think about the way I interact with them though!
Moms – what are your thoughts? How do you look at your kids when they walk into the room?