Toddlers and Listening

This afternoon the kids were swimming while I cooked dinner. Kiara yells (as only she can) – MOOOOOOM! Did you know Christopher* broke his penis? It popped!

Apparently he was trying to lift another child with his legs and fell and popped his penis!

My neighbour was busy saying goodbye to her embroidery students who have a collective age of about 250 years old.

I am hoping little Christopher is ok!!

So I need some help with my 17 month old ball of energy. What is age appropriate “punishment” for him when he doesn’t listen?

I know he is pushing boundaries now but I am getting rather frustrated. He throws stones in the pool – we say no, we take him in etc he just ignores us. The other day he actually looked at me, threw the stone in and clapped his hands!!!!!

He has starting spitting – mainly when he is drinking but the more I say no the more he does it :-/

THEN he will pull a cute face or hug me or something that makes me melt a little.

What is age appropriate for a 17 month old?


  1. Ankia says

    Time-out on a naughty chair on naughty corner or whatever you find works. 1 minute per year, so I’d do 2 minutes for him. It’s a pain in the beginning because he won’t stay so you’ll have to keep putting him back, but trust me the worst thing for a ball of energy is being confined. Afterwards he must ‘say sorry’ as well. Worked like a bomb for James.

  2. Ankia says

    Oh yes and you must first give him a chance to correct his behaviour, so warn him once first. Can you tell I watched and applied a lot of Super-nanny? Lol!

  3. says

    How does a penis pop? Or should I rather google it? Perish the thought!

    Re your 17 month old, I think we had ours on time-out then already, but what I found most effective was praising good and ignoring bad. They crave attention and he will soon realise that ignoring a stern No will bring him nothing. With twins we also used to make a big fuss over the “aggrieved” child if the other hit etc them.

    It’s different for every child and family though, you have to see what works.

  4. says

    At that age I tried (am still trying) distraction. I know at Little OL’s school they have what they call the “grow good” corner. And when they are allowed out they are asked if they have grown good and a positive spin is put on the whole thing as opposed to the negative. I cant remember how old she was when I first started using it (or time outs).
    It is a thing that I battle with. The one book I have been told helps is Raising a spirited child. I have not tried it though.

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