Just before I left my ex Cameron drew a picture of me at school – I was crying. It was a big wake up seeing that picture. I think it was in that moment that I realised change needed to happen.

We never really know as parents if we are doing a good job – our kids seem happy but then they shout at us or are defiant or break something and we doubt ourselves.

As you know my kids get spelling words each week (hateful spelling words) and they need to make sentences with them. I was checking with Cameron that he had in fact done his homework during a foster period (sort of a free period) and he said “Yes, we had the word goddess and I made the sentence, My step-dad treats my mom like a goddess”


I will take the gold stars for both David and myself thank you very much!!!! Ok maybe David does get an extra one :)

It is a simple sentence but is so very loaded. Not only does it mean that David treats me like a goddess but it means Cameron is seeing it, appreciating it, learning from it. Isn’t that how we raise strong men who treat women with respect and kindness?

I think most of us, as parents, live for these little moments of validation.

Have you had any of these moments recently?