Single men dating single moms
There has been alot of posts in single-parent land about dating another single parent and how the single parent deals with dating!
But what about the single man/women who chooses to date a person with kids?
How do they feel?
On Friday night I had a discussion about this that really opened my eyes to the other side of it! And then Sunday I was faced with questions from a single guy that I had never really considered either!
When a single guy decides to date a women with kids he has alot to consider. And its not just his effect on the children. Because ultimately kids are resilient and tougher than we give them credit for.
They also have to consider the ex-husband or baby-daddy. It has never really been much of an issue for me because my kids father is a time-share dad so not around enough for it to really matter.
But what about the dad who is involved. The one who pitches every second weekend and once during the week? The one who takes his kids on holidays and attends school functions? What happens then?
Well ultimately the single-guy then embarks on a three-way relationships with the mother and the ex. He becomes intertwined in all their lives and has to deal with everything that may arise from that.
Isnt that pretty scary? Well it scares me if the roles were flipped around! So I can totally understand hesitation from single guys to make a commitment to women with children. Granted it is something you can work around and millions of families make it work BUT I still understand the hesitation.
Because not only do you have to consider your partner when making a decision, like moving? Or going on a holiday! But you now need to consider the ex too.
Thats pretty hectic isnt it!
My kids met a friend of mine on Sunday. Before he met them he asked me how my ex would respond if he found out. I can honestly say it has never actually occured to me what he thinks. He is so uninvolved that I really dont think he deserves the right to say anything!
But the fact remains that these are things that concern single guys! It is what influences their decision to date a single mom and they are things that need to be considered!
