Harassed Mom

It was wedding two yesterday afternoon. It was held at Kieviets Kroon – well half of it was anyway.

During discussions at night outs with the couple we knew we where going to be taken in buses from Kieviets Kroon to the place where the ceremony would be held but what we didnt know was it would be a 45 minute bus ride into the middle of nowhere to a game farm.

What we didn’t know was that 15 minutes of the bus ride would be on a dust road through ditches and puddles. What we didn’t know was we would be risking our lives over a little hang bridge to get to the place where the ceremony would be held!

But once we had reached the other side of the river, walked through the little path and found the oasis in the middle of nowhere it was pretty clear why she had chosen that spot. It really was very pretty.

She is Jewish so they did have a few of the Jewish traditions like walking around each other 7 times (I think it was each other – we couldn’t really see) and then breaking the glass at the end.

The guy who conducted the ceremony was awesome. He did quote a little from the Bible but his focus was more on love and the uniting of the couple. It was, I think, the most beautiful ceremony I have attended. I may or may not have had a tear in my eye!

After the ceremony we all walked over to an open tent where there were tables laden with just about every type of cheese, bread, jam known to man. There was black cherries, red cherries, springbok carpaccio, dry wors, nuts, bread sticks – really it was like a medieval feast. Not really a place for me and my lactose and gluten intolerances. But the spread was enormously impressive.

We also got to taste the first sparkling wine made by Diemersfontein – I cant now remember the name but it was very nice

After many many MANY speeches we risked life and limb again to get back to the bus and back to Kievietskroon. Must say the bus trip was a little more fun than going there – we ended up collectively doing a 10 minute crossword (took us collectively about 25 minutes to get half way).

The rest of the evening was lovely. There was more speeches (really there were) and there was drinking and laughing and fun times!

I don’t think I have been to a wedding like this where such lengths were taken to make it everything she had hoped for. No expense was spared and you can see months and months of planning and hard work went into putting it together!

We attended a wedding this weekend at Oxbow Country Estate . It was Davids step cousin. The venue was pretty but the service did leave a lot to be desired!

The view from our room.

But, thanks to Davids mom, we got to sleep over which is always fun The room was very nice – it had the most enormous bed – really I think it was a super king size bed. We could barely see each other :-p See how totally huge it was.

The actual ceremony was boring long and in Afrikaans – so we both missed any message there may have been but the reception afterwards was lovely and relaxed. It was just family – there is lots of step/half siblings and parents – so once everyone was invited it made for a rather large get together

It did make me rather sad at one point – when she danced with her dad. My dad wouldnt do that with me. He doesnt dance and honestly wouldnt see the point. And then her mom was dancing which again, my mother wouldnt do.

It makes me sad that while, I suppose, my family is close – we are not close physically. There is almost no physical displays of affection and even less verbal affirmations of it.

I only realise it when I am around a family like this one, that is so close despite the chaos and dysfunction.

Anyway it was a lovely evening – lots of laughs and happy memories. And I was most proper and bonded with Davids mom.

I dont have a proper picture of what I looked like. I ended up going with the dress I wore to my brothers wedding (and will say I did feel alot over dressed actually). But here is me and my most awesome boyfriend.

Thank you Sally for taking the kids to Natashas party – your help is much appreciated!

It was a good weekend that ended with a sunday afternoon nap at home Which in itself is a treat.

What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life – to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories.  ~George Eliot

Last night I went to watch a movie! A grown up, non-animated movie with grown up people! It was spectacular!

We went to Ster Kinekors Chick Flick Bride Wars!

Now I am not really a huge chick flick kinda girl – no really I am not. I would much rather watch some actioned packed Transporter type movie but my need for adult time and a dose of something un-animated was greater than my need for speed!

It was a really cute movie! Not so much about love and weddings as it was about friendship! The ties that bind! I was surprised though by the lack of decent looking men in the movie though – I am thinking that maybe it was intentional? So that the focus remains on the girls?

It wasnt as predictable as these movies are which was really nice nor was it fulled with cheesy chick flick lines! And the soundtrack was pretty funky too!

If you havent seen it, take your girlfriends (seriously dont even ask you boyfriend) and go see it!

It did make me sort of sad in a way! The 2 main characters have been friends for 20 years. They grew up together and were literally like sisters – only better.

I dont have that. Yes I have a best friend and I love her with all my heart and she knows every single detail of my life. But I have only known her 6 years. My oldest and closest friend is Mr Friend – we have known each other 12 years!

Yes I have my very close girlfriends but I dont have anyone who I have that kind of history with and it kinda makes me sad! All my school and varsity friends have drifted away and I cant seem to actually keep any girlfriends long – I think I set things to black and white sometimes!

Anyway it did also get me thinking that with the friends I do have now, should I get married again it will be the hugest party EVER! The bachellorette party will go down in history! The wedding will make Top Billing (ok maybe just alot of blogs then). AND I have found the dress! The Vera Wang that Liv wore was for me simple perfect!

It will be spectacular because next time around I will have all the people there who have held me up and stood by me!

Ok I am thinking maybe there is truth in the idea that I am a little self absorbed – I just turned this movie review into a post about me!!!