Relationships are complex things, friendships especially so. When you are younger they create much angst and stress – are you friends with enough people, the right people, nice people, popular people etc. Then one day your best friend is friends with someone else and suddenly you have to start again, now with all the issues around loosing your best friend. It really was all very complicated, unnecessarily so.
Fortunately, like with most things, it does get easier as you grow older because you realise a lot of the nonsense that mattered at 16, doesn’t matter at 30 (or 35 if you are a slow learner like me). What does remain the same though is the fact that relationships still do require a certain amount of hard work and effort from both parties. Often as we get older and life gets busier and occupied with kids and kids related stuff, our friendships do tend to suffer because our time is so limited and restricted. As a result we surround ourselves with friends who have similar interests because then we can do those things with them. David has made some great cycling friends – they catch up twice a week for 2 hours when they go out cycling.
For the first time in my life I am very comfortable where I am with my friends. I have a solid group of amazing women that I call friends. It is not a huge group, but I have come to realise I don’t need a huge group, in fact I feel more comfortable with a smaller group.
So this week instead of doing a list of happy things from the past week I am going to list a few reasons why I have the best friends!
- They are honest with me! I know if I ask their advise or opinion, I will get an honest answer, even if it is one I don’t like or don’t agree with.
- They always have wine, chocolate or gluten free goodies!
- They let me vent and at the moment there is a lot of venting going on.
- They make whatsapp groups where we discuss all sorts of things.
- They are supportive.
- They are always there.
- They have kids so they know how crazy life can get, but we still work around that and manage to fit in time together.
- They love my family as much as they love me!
- They have seen me do the ugly cry (some of them a few times).
I am extremely grateful for all the friends I have, particularly Ansie who really has been there with me through “the worst of times and the best of times”