High school has been a rather large adjustment for
me us. We were in primary school for 7 years, 5 of those were at the same school so we were pretty much in their routine, we knew how they worked (or didn’t work as the case may be).
I would just like to say, right now, that this is another reason why I suggest finding a school that goes from Grade R – Grade 12. It makes the transition a lot easier.
Obviously we knew there would be a transition period, what I did not know was that we were entering a completely different world. Cameron also commented that it was a completely different environment but fortunately he seems to have adjusted well.
So what are some of the differences?
Participation! Participation is important at high school. At primary school you can get your child out of pretty much anything pretty easily, high school is not like this. Last week the entire school went to an athletics meet. There was not a “please sign if your child can attend” there was simply “The bus leaves at x and will be back at y”. The kids have to take part in at least one winter and one summer activity – it doesn’t have to be a sport, could be an art/cultural activity. I actually don’t mind this, in fact I think it is really great. It builds school spirit and encourages the children to get involved.
The children are given a lot more responsibility for their work, there is little hand holding and they are made a lot more accountable for their work.
The conversations are different. Yesterday at a gala I overheard a conversation by two moms, it sounded very much like they were discussing girlfriends for their sons, they had pictures and were almost completing a score sheet. The group of young girls sitting next to me where talking about the hot boys they fancied. (I know this is normal but it is very different from the conversations I am used to).
The schedule is busy. Cameron has always been busy but this feels on a different level. I think it is because of the participation thing so there are galas and athletics events that have to be attended and there are dances and after school events that are coming up.
Probably the hardest part, for me and me alone, is that it is apparently not cool to wave at your mom. Cameron is happy to make side eyes to acknowledge I just battled traffic to sit on really crappy stands to watch him but anything more is not going to happen. Breaks my heart a little but I suppose it is what it is.
This parenting really is just one big mind f*&k. Just when you think you are on top of things, something happens and the whole game changes again.