I often wonder how we remembered things before Facebook memories. I will admit I do love looking back daily to what happened 1,3,4 or even 10 year ago. It is always a good way to see how your kids have grown, or a reminder of what life was like before kids, or how you didn’t need a week to recover from a night out. On a more personal note though, Facebook memories show me daily what a negative Nancy I was. I can see a big change in my attitude over the years and honestly, I am not sure how I managed to snag a new husband and develop new friendships with that attitude.
While I am by no means Happiness Harriet, I am a lot more positive about life than I used to be. I have mentioned the Embrace Happy group and I think that really had a lot to do with my attitude change.
Sometimes we need to take our heads out of our own bums and realise there is more to life than wallowing in our own self-pity. Focusing on the positive is a sure-fire way to do that because even when life is at its darkest there is always something to be grateful for.
We all know that focusing on the things going wrong doesn’t change them, only action does. So, it makes sense to focus on the good things while taking action to change the negative things that you can change.
As I get older and do this more and more I am realizing the power of positive energy. Life hasn’t been easy for David and me over the past year, it feels like it has been one challenge after another. I have, on more than one occasion, wanted to crawl into a hole and cry a puddle of tears.
It is on those occasions I stop, take a step back and remind myself of the good things we have,
- Speak Social is doing so much better than I imagined. So much so I have had to hire help.
- My kids, all of them, are thriving.
- Thanks to the awesome brands I work with, my kids have experienced some amazing things over the past year.
- Blog drops keep us in chocolate :-p
- We have an amazing family support structure.
- I can give back to #WrapABaby, Magical Moments and Santa Shoebox.
- I have some insanely positive people in my life, many of them are clients who full my energy cup each time I see them.
I could go on, but that is not really the point of this post. The point is, life is tough some days. Shit happens. It happens to all of us. But that doesn’t mean our life is terrible or that we are doomed to a life of bad things. It just means your car got a flat tyre or your kid lost his brand-new blazer or you lost your job. None of these things are permanent. None of these take away your warm home, your happy child or the opportunity to do something you love.
The only thing that will determine which way you will go is you. For too long I chose the Moaning Minnie road because it is easy to moan and complain but it doesn’t change anything and attracts more negativity.
If you are having a bad day, stop and find things to be happy about. I promise you they are there.
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