We must do coffee! Yes we must definitely, we have so much to catch up on. What about Monday 8h15 – 9h15. I can do Monday 12h35 – 13h40? Ok what about Tuesday 13h00 – 14h00? Nope that won’t work for me Thursday maybe 10h30? What about next week? Oh no wait I will see you on Saturday and Sophie’s party! Perfect, I look forward to catching up!
Who else has these conversations with friends? It can’t just be me? And it is not about being too busy, I have free time, it is just not always at the same time as my mom friends free time. Kids birthday parties provide us with the perfect opportunity to catch up without spending weeks trying to co-ordinate coffee dates.
Jack and Emma haven’t started with school friends kids parties (yet) which means that the parties we are attending at the moment are friends kids parties and I am using these parties as opportunities to catch up with friends I am struggling to see.
In between opening suckers and juice boxes we can catch up on how our jobs are going. Over a glass of wine while the kids are on the jumping castle we share our current parent challenges and swap war stories on tantrums, sleep issues and everything in between. While we ref fights over black bikes and toys, we discuss schools and how best to deal with homework.
We comfort one another’s kids when they fall off the trampoline or slip on the tiles. We hold niggly babies that aren’t ours so our friend can drink her glass of wine in peace. We share wet wipes, nappies and changes of clothes.
Kids birthday parties allow us to be moms, to be with our kids while feeding our need to be more than moms, to connect with our friends and feel like we are managing to balance it all. We get to feel like we are part of a village, and this is clearly something that is important to me, to be a part of something bigger than me. It is a reminder that we all make the same mistakes, have the same fears and feel the same about homework, school car parks and extra muruals.
Kids parties aren’t just fun for kids, they are pretty important to the moms too, well to me anyway.
**Pic credits are to Funso and Sam (I think)**
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