As a parent, I have had a bit of a love/hate relationship with star charts, they have worked and then they haven’t and some kids respond but others have removed stars and handed them back to me so that they can misbehave. About a month ago Jack just refused to get ready for school. We were shouting, dragging, bribing and some mornings even leaving him. It is a horrible way to start the day and I was over it. So I suggested a star chart to him which meant that Emma also needed in on the action.
The deal was that if he got dressed without a fight then he would get a sticker.
Every night Emma runs into his room after David reads the story and it drives Jack mad, he convinced her that if she doesn’t run into his room she would get a sticker.
The challenge was set!
We broke it down into a 10 day and 20 day reward.
Ten days of stickers in a row and they get to go to Burger King.
Twenty days of stickers in a row and they each get to pick a toy.
Monday was Day 20 and yesterday we took them to buy their toys. I was reminded why I never (and I mean NEVER) take my kids to toy shops. That aside I think we did ok. Emma did some really remarkable negotiating. For someone who can’t add past 1+1, she knows how to wrangle a lot of toys into her R200 budget!
All in all the star chart was a success!
But now what? Emma isn’t really too fussed and is over running into Jacks room but he is trying to get us to start the chart again for the same thing.
I am not sure that that is how it is supposed to work?
I was chatting to Nikki earlier and she said she doesn’t want to reward her kids for every day things like manners or in my case, getting ready for school without a fight. I completely agree with that. We have now done it for 21 days, he can do it and I think, as a parent, he must do it because it is the right thing to do? It might not be what he wants to do but that’s life and sometimes you just have to do stuff because it needs to get done!
What are your thoughts on this? Do I create a never ending reward chart just to get my son to get dressed in the morning or must he now just do it?
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