Just for any new readers and a refresher for old readers who don’t see me regularly – below is my family (also found here)
There is Cameron – he is 9 and his father and I are no longer together and he is coloured. (So in another words David is NOT related to him by blood)
Then there is Kiara – she is 7 and has the same father as Cameron so is also coloured.
Lastly is baby Jack – David is his dad (and I am his mom) which makes Cameron and Kiara his half siblings.
And then obviously there is David and I.
So what is the point of this show and tell I hear you ask? Well see what is obvious to me is not so obvious to the rest of the world it appears.
I have been asked once in Cameron and Kiara’s lives if they were adopted – that’s ONCE in 7 years.
Jack is 4 months old and I have already been asked if HE is adopted once and on numerous occasions I have been asked if he is my baby.
Each time I am left speechless.
I am white – Jack is white – Cameron and Kiara aren’t so WHY would the obvious be that JACK is adopted?
The lady who said this to me saw my confusion and went on to say something along the lines of “adoption is no big deal and quiet common these days” – I am not so sure these ladies would think its no big deal but I just smiled at her and explained he was mine and walked away.
I have also been told on separate occasions by different people that Cameron and Kiara look like David – in fact someone actually said that Cameron was the spitting image of David? Really? LIKE REALLY?
Now I am not sure if people just say stuff for the sake of saying it? Or if they believe what they are saying.
It is pretty obvious when all 5 of us are together that we are not all from the same place and I honestly do not mind questions but silly comments and statements make me want to kick your shins and squish my ice cream on your forehead!
But what really prompted this post was this post by Melinda. I often find myself thinking (and saying) – well he/she gets that from you to David about something the kids have done and like Melinda when new drs ask questions about the kids I actually think about David’s side – I was aware of this when I recently completed Kiara’s OT forms and considered David’s behaviour/history.
I could actually put forward a very strong argument for the side of nurture in the whole nature vs nurture debate because I can see the older kids doing and saying and behaving more and more like David as the days go by.
Our family may not be joined to each other by blood but our bond is just as unbreakable and our love for each other just as real and lasting.
So we will suffer the stupid people’s questions for now 🙂