While we were travelling to Montagu in December, we stopped at a stop for breakfast along with everyone else on their way to their holiday destinations in the Western Cape. This particular stop had a row of separate family toilets, it is the first time I have noticed these at a petrol station stop. On the way down there was no queue so I was able to quickly take Jack and Emma into one. On the way back, however, there were queues everywhere, for both the ladies bathrooms and the family cubicles.
There was a young mom standing outside the family cubicles with her little boy, maybe a year old and her daughter who looked around 3. Her son’s clothes were sopping wet and his nappy was ready to be changed and the little boy was crying his heart out. She was comforting as best she could. Eventually one of the cubicle doors open and out waltzes a lady, NO BABY! NO KIDS! Just her and her freshly make-uped face. I felt like tripping her as she waltzed past us all, including the mom and her baby.
Why do people think family toilets exist? Do they think moms sneak off to public rest rooms to sneak in a smoke, sip on some cocktails, read a book? WHAT? Seriously do people think that someone sat in a boardroom and said “Let’s spend some extra money and make a magical place for parent’s to escape to and call it FAMILY TOILETS”.
If you were under some illusion that family toilets were some kind of special place for parents then you very clearly do not have children. You have very clearly not had a toddler tell you they are about to poo and have to race to find the nearest unoccupied toilet. You have never had a newborn have a poonami in their nappy that needs to be changed immediately.
Toddlers learning how to go without a nappy have little control over their bladders, generally when they say I need to wee, they can’t hold it anymore. If your babies nappy explodes you can’t buckle them into their car seat and head home to change it now, you also can not wait in a queue for very long.
THIS IS WHY THERE ARE FAMILY TOILETS!
The same logic applies to FAMILY PARKING SPOTS. These were not set up so stay at home moms could get quick and easy access to their local coffee shop. Have you ever tried to get 2 toddlers across a parking lot? Or a baby and a toddler? Have you tried to unpack your pram and nappy bag and kids while squashed between two cars? We get a couple of parking spots and SOME shopping centres, please let us have them.
Yes I did just spend a whole post ranting about toilets and parking spots but it really pisses me off when people have absolutely no respect. This doesn’t only apply to the family toilets but to disabled parkings and toilet and senior toilets as well.
Family toilets do not come with free warm towels or heated toilet seats, they come with tired, crying kids most of the time. We don’t get a gift voucher every time we park in a family parking. There is no hidden prize behind the door!
Yes we decided to have children, yes we need to deal with that, trust me we remind ourselves of that as we are bribing our kids to “please hold it a little longer” or trying not get baby poop on the first decent outfit we have worn since falling pregnant. Someone decided giving us separate toilets would be a good idea and it is but only if we get to use it.
So please, if you don’t have a child with you do not use the family toilet. If you are not disabled please don’t park in the disabled parking spot. If you are not a senior citizen, please don’t make someone’s gran walk up the stairs to the normal toilets.
Maybe you don’t have kids today, maybe you never will have any but you will, one day, be old and karma is a bitch!
Do the right thing!
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