I have been quiet around these parts the last few days! To be honest, I have been in a bit of a weird space and I can’t figure it out which is making it a little more frustrating. A friend of mine may have hit the nail on the head this morning though. She said “You have stress from various sides at the moment.” and I think that is exactly what it is. Life isn’t bad at all, in fact everything is pretty awesome but there is a lot of stress, some normal but a large amount abnormal. I sort of feel like I am in a constant state of fight or flight.
I know it will pass and sort itself out so lets move on to happier news.
For a while now I have been thinking about doing something but something happened a few weeks ago that solidified the choice for me. We have officially registered as a Place of Safety. What this means is that we will take a baby into our care while the social workers try to find them permanent foster care. The babies placed with us will not be with us forever, we are not planning to adopt, these are temporary placements.
Obviously we had extensive discussions about this as a family. I was surprised with how keen the older kids were to do this, seeing as they were most affected but the chaos of a larger family.
So what led me to this decision?
A few weeks ago I received a message from a friend about a baby that been abandoned at a hospital I am involved with. We had a safe home for the baby to go to but due to an inefficient social worker this little baby went back into the system. I had never met the little boy but it affected me deeply that he had been let down twice in his short little day life.
I know I can’t save the world but we have a family who can offer a child a safe, secure, happy place for a few months and I feel we can’t not do this. These little people didn’t ask to born into these situations and often the moms don’t really want it to work out like this either.
When the social worker arrived to do our home visit she had a little baby with her. This confirmed my decision. This little boys story isn’t mine to share but honestly if she had asked me to keep him I would have. It felt right.
So yes, once all the clearance certificates are in, we could very well have a 5th member of our family and I couldn’t be more excited!
How is everyone doing? What is happening in your life?
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