Yesterday was World Sibling Day. I think one of the best parts of having lots of kids is watching the dynamics that develop between them. It is more interesting within our family because we have the big age differences. People are often surprised when I tell them how close Jack and Cameron are. There is almost a 10 year age gap between them.
“Brothers are like streetlights along the road, they don’t make distance any shorter but they light up the path and make the walk worthwhile.”
Cameron left on Sunday to compete in the SA Schools gala in Polokwane. We went to drop him off at the bus but only took Emma with us. When we had dropped Cameron, I said to her “EMMA! It is just you, me and dad. Isn’t that so nice! It’s just us”. She looked at me and the empty car and said “But I need Jack and Kiara and Lucy.” We then popped in to one of David’s colleagues to drop something off. After about 15 minutes, Emma said “I need to go to Jack and Kiara now.”
“In the cookies of life, sisters are like chocolate chips”
While my children are have very different personalities and are separated by many things like age, colour and gender, they are very much connected to one another. This connection is incredibly strong, despite the protests from the older two.
Jack and Emma spend a lot of time with David’s mom. Cameron, particularly, misses them a lot. He doesn’t spend much time at home due to his swimming so he really does value the time he is here and if they are not, he misses them.
“Like branches on a tree we grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one.”
I think in larger families, more so than those with 2 kids, the children become used to each other being there. Everyone in our home has a role to play, more so than if there was less to do (ie less kids), so when one is missing we all feel it.
As a parent, it is special watching these bonds form. There are moments of absolute chaos when they are playing with each other and screaming with laughter or shouting instructions but those sounds are the sounds of memories and bonds being made. The moments where Kiara teaches Emma how to do her hair, or when they dress the same, those are special moments, securing the bonds they have. When Cameron runs to grab Jack when he has fallen, those are special moments that speak to their bond.Generally I am not a huge promoter of having many children but one of the definite pros of our larger family is that my children each have 3 siblings that they will always be able to rely on. For me, it is such a privilege to be able to watch these bonds develop and grow stronger each day.
“Your siblings are the only people in the world who know what it’s like to have been brought up the way you were.” – Betsy Cohen
How is the relationship between your kids? And you and your siblings?
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