40 for 40

I turned 40 last week and had planned to do this post then but I was recovering from the kids having their tonsils out then Cameron and I got sick and I can’t seem to shake it and I am feeling very sorry for myself.

But I have a year of being 40 so there is no rush I suppose!

I have obviously figured out a few things in the last 40 years and I thought I would share them with you so you can, hopefully, learn from my mistakes (or experiences). It has taken 40 years to learn some of these, 40 years of banging my head repeatedly.

    1. Everyone needs a good pair of slippers.
    2. The Lord ALWAYS provides. Sometimes it is at the very last minute but it always ALWAYS comes together.
    3. Marriage is not easy but when you find that person you want to do “not easy” with it, it makes life much easier.
    4. We all need a person. That one person that knows every thing about us, that has seen us ugly cry and stupid drunk. It took me a while to find that person but now I have her and life is infinitely sweeter.
    5. People need to eat more chocolate and drink more coffee. Life would be so much sweeter if they did.
    6. Raising children is a daily challenge. Some days you love them more than you thought possible and other days you want to run away and never look back.
    7. You never really know what tomorrow holds but if you expect it to be bad it probably will be so don’t expect the worst. Always expect the best!
    8. Distancing yourself from people who do not add value is the best thing you can do for yourself. It is not selfish, it is essential.
    9. What you put out into the universe you get back. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME!
    10. Teenagers are like a parenting report card or the 1st term. You get a glimpse of how well or how badly you are doing. (It varies from day to day).
    11. Breastfeeding is not easy. It is not fun and it doesn’t always strengthen your bond with baby.
    12. The sooner you stop worrying about the opinions of the world at large, the happier you will be.
    13. Filling up your car with petrol is one of the most depressing things EVER. If you are able to actually fill up your tank, then you are officially an adult.
    14. Every home needs a pet. 
    15. Having 4 kids does not mean you know what you are doing when it comes to parenting.
    16. You will never have enough money. The more you have the more your children will need.
    17. Swimming, as a sport, if taken seriously is not cheap. Do not be fooled into thinking all your need is a costume.
    18. Few things are sweeter than coffee, cheese and washing powder on special. If all three happen at the same time you really have hit the jackpot.
    19. Hangovers get infinitely worse the older you get. n fact this is the sole reason I have stopped drinking.
    20. When you are buying your children something like a chocolate, buy them ALL the exact same one, even if there is a 12 year age difference – if you do one thing from this post, let it be this!
    21. Children are exceptionally forgiving (especially if offered their favourite food :-p)
    22. A long hot bath always provides perspective.
    23. Be kind to everyone. It takes nothing and you really don’t know how you could impact someone by your kind words.
    24. Always (and by this I mean ALWAYS) keep change in your car for parking tickets.
    25. Find a charity you love and support them. Giving back is essential. Every little bit helps the bigger picture. 
    26. Get involved with your child’s school. Yes it takes up time and yes it is a pain but do it anyway. 
    27. Leggings are God’s thank you gift to middle aged women!
    28. Saying no to events/invites/people can be incredibly liberating.
    29. No one’s life is defined by their Facebook or Instagram feeds.
    30. Money will come. It will go just as quickly but when you shift your focus you always comes.
    31. Your kids don’t have to bath every day. Seriously this isn’t even something you should stress about. (All your teen boy needs is his first girlfriend to realise the value of a daily shower).
    32. Pedicures are essential. 
    33. There is no shame in signing up to all the loyalty cards you can.
    34. If you are first time mom – pick ONE person who you respect and listen to their advice ONLY. Everyone will have an opinion on your baby, it can be overwhelming so shut the noise out.
    35. Don’t let fear control you. I did this for too long, once I let it go, life really began!
    36. Stand up for the things that are important to you. Always. 
    37. Don’t google your symptoms. Ever. Just don’t do it.
    38. Do not ignore the petrol light.
    39. When in doubt by the extra pack of toilet paper. (I am still learning this lesson, the hard way I might add).
    40. ENJOY life. Don’t worry about tomorrow or what everyone else thinks or is doing. Be you and enjoy where you are.

What are some of the life lessons you have learnt?

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  1. 25 April, 2018 / 8:18 am

    I LOVE this! 40 sounds fabulous. Happy Birthday again Laura!

  2. deborah
    25 April, 2018 / 11:25 am

    Happy birthday for last week. Can agree on so many levels especially when it comes to the sport of swimming dam it can be expensive! Have annual registration coming up soon and trying to see where those extra funds are going to fall from but its my daughters passion and good form of keeping fit. Regarding the same sweets for all the kids too true (also maybe don’t buy for one without the other because guaranteed they will get home and tell each other how “spoilt” they were )

  3. Chan
    25 April, 2018 / 12:05 pm

    What an awesome post! And a very happy belated 40th birthday to you!!!

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