5 Things your teen needs to know before they go to a night club

5 Things your teen needs to know|HarassedMomThere will be that moment when your child comes to you and asks if they can go to a night club that is not the “safe” house party where kids play hide-and-seek, drink too much cream soda and get party packs! It will be the kind of party that has bouncers, children you don’t know and if you are anything like me, every drug dealer and child trafficker will be there searching for your kid and only your kid!

Right now I can see many of you going “NO! I will just say NO!” and you could, you probably should but there is a point where you need to leave your paranoia on the latest Criminal Minds episode, step back into reality and let your child go.

This doesn’t mean you don’t instill the fear of God into that child and drill them for days about what they can an can’t do (NOTHING) and who they can and can’t speak to (NO ONE). We obviously were faced with this reality last week. It was hard but we survived and he had a great time despite our ground rules

No accepting drinks that have already been opened or offered by random people. This if for obvious reasons, you don’t know whats been added to those drinks. So only closed bottles and tins.

No handing you cell numbers. There was a bit of an uproar about this, because what does he do if he sees a girl he likes. I suggested he get her number (and hopefully her mom doesn’t have the same paranoid rules as I do). But on this one I do trust Cam enough to know he will assess the situation.

No getting into cars with strangers EVEN if your friends do. This doesn’t apply to his friends parents, but he is not to get into a car with people he does not know. This is also a tricky one because what if his friend does, leaving him alone or placing the friend in an unsafe situation. I stand firm on my rule, if his friend does leave with someone then Cameron needs to call us immediately. What are your thoughts on this one?

Don’t separate from the group. Safety in numbers and all that!

Do not under any circumstance accept anything from anyone you do not know! No explanation needed, just say no! They can carry their own stuff, eat their own food, drink their own drinks! Finished!

I think the toughest thing with this type of outing is that there is no one there that I know. There is no mom peeking around the corner or dad trying to be cool or teacher moaning instead there are bouncers paid to do a job and not really “care” about my child.

Cameron can roll his eyes at me a thousand times, his friends can roll their eyes at me a thousand times but I will keep on enforcing these rules (and probably more when I think of them) because I am his mom and that’s my job.

Just so we are all clear – the club Cameron went to was an under 18 event. It was not a night club with 20-somethings walking around acting like 20-somethings act!

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11 Comments

  1. 11 April, 2016 / 9:54 am

    It is scary. I can say I eased up on the kids that arrived later (be that good or bad) but I worry regardless. Even now with 5 out of 8 living on their own.
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  2. Ankia
    11 April, 2016 / 10:13 am

    No going to the bathroom alone.

  3. 11 April, 2016 / 1:02 pm

    Oh gosh – this I guess is waiting for me too. Scares the whatsisname out of me! Thanks for all the advice, And I think what Ankia says is great too

  4. 11 April, 2016 / 1:15 pm

    Good rules Laura! I’m going to have to remember this.
    They’re actually valid for home parties too, so going to start introducing them now

  5. 11 April, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    My niece was at the same party. My sister was just as paranoid as you are. She was also super paranoid. Her ground rules were pretty much the same as yours, she was ADAMANT about K staying with her friends.
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  6. 11 April, 2016 / 3:38 pm

    I’m not even CLOSE to ready to confront this. At all!
    I’ll definitely be revisiting your list of rules when the time comes, though…
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  7. deborah
    13 April, 2016 / 9:33 am

    Havent had to go through this yet with my daughter but with my nieces and nephew I was the paranoid “helicopter aunt”. Also told them not to accept open drinks/drinks from strangers, stick together with friends, don’t put drinks down and definitely when going to the loo go in twos or with other friends.
    By the way I still remind my nephew of all these things and he is already in his twenties.

  8. 14 April, 2016 / 8:39 am

    A scary new fase of life…and I have not forgotten the many, many sleepless nights until I heard my boys and B come home.
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  9. Julia
    17 April, 2016 / 3:44 pm

    Oy. My son is not really interested in this (yet) and I kind of hope it stays that way for a a while. Right now he’s a gamer and for the moment, this is all I can handle.

    As a former club goer, my main rules would be to NOT leave your drink unattended. EVER. Also to NOT go to the bathrooms alone.

  10. 5 May, 2016 / 11:00 pm

    I’m so not ready for this, but I loved your rules. Those were basically the same ones I got from my mom when I was that age. So yes, will keep with those, and adding more as times change. Thanks!

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