There will be that moment when your child comes to you and asks if they can go to a night club that is not the “safe” house party where kids play hide-and-seek, drink too much cream soda and get party packs! It will be the kind of party that has bouncers, children you don’t know and if you are anything like me, every drug dealer and child trafficker will be there searching for your kid and only your kid!
Right now I can see many of you going “NO! I will just say NO!” and you could, you probably should but there is a point where you need to leave your paranoia on the latest Criminal Minds episode, step back into reality and let your child go.
This doesn’t mean you don’t instill the fear of God into that child and drill them for days about what they can an can’t do (NOTHING) and who they can and can’t speak to (NO ONE). We obviously were faced with this reality last week. It was hard but we survived and he had a great time despite our ground rules
No accepting drinks that have already been opened or offered by random people. This if for obvious reasons, you don’t know whats been added to those drinks. So only closed bottles and tins.
No handing you cell numbers. There was a bit of an uproar about this, because what does he do if he sees a girl he likes. I suggested he get her number (and hopefully her mom doesn’t have the same paranoid rules as I do). But on this one I do trust Cam enough to know he will assess the situation.
No getting into cars with strangers EVEN if your friends do. This doesn’t apply to his friends parents, but he is not to get into a car with people he does not know. This is also a tricky one because what if his friend does, leaving him alone or placing the friend in an unsafe situation. I stand firm on my rule, if his friend does leave with someone then Cameron needs to call us immediately. What are your thoughts on this one?
Don’t separate from the group. Safety in numbers and all that!
Do not under any circumstance accept anything from anyone you do not know! No explanation needed, just say no! They can carry their own stuff, eat their own food, drink their own drinks! Finished!
I think the toughest thing with this type of outing is that there is no one there that I know. There is no mom peeking around the corner or dad trying to be cool or teacher moaning instead there are bouncers paid to do a job and not really “care” about my child.
Cameron can roll his eyes at me a thousand times, his friends can roll their eyes at me a thousand times but I will keep on enforcing these rules (and probably more when I think of them) because I am his mom and that’s my job.
Just so we are all clear – the club Cameron went to was an under 18 event. It was not a night club with 20-somethings walking around acting like 20-somethings act!