You know what I hated most about working for a big corporate? The politics! I HATED it. The back biting, the gossip, the manipulation, the lack of integrity to get ahead. It was a dark, horrible place.
When I left I thought that was the last I would see of that rubbish but then I started blogging and then I started getting a following. Then I joined twitter and then I started getting more people following me. It was all very great and I was having fun. But then it started, the gossiping, the back biting – the ugliness. Fortunately, in the nearly 7 years I have been blogging I have never been the direct target but I have thrown a bit of bitchiness here and there but for the most part I do try and stay out of it. The reality is, it does exist. It will always exist where two or more people come together. It is human nature unfortunately.
What has struck me as sad lately though is how many bloggers feel isolated, left out or ignored but their fellow bloggers. I have always felt the total opposite. I have always had such great support from my fellow bloggers.
This was probably the biggest motivator for me to organise the #jozimeetup. It is so easy to hide behind our screens and make comments (or not) and feel like we aren’t a part of something we want to be. By removing the computer screens and meeting people face to face the whole dynamic changes, you get to see who people really are, you get to connect with them on a whole different level. Most importantly you realise that when all is said and done, we really are all the same!
It is also why I have set up Blog Share Connect. My aim is to connect bloggers. To organise events, not only like the #jozimeetup, but smaller less formal ones where bloggers can connect with one another, in person, regularly. I want to be able to share our stories and experiences. It is, and has been for a while, important to me.
Yesterday there were a few posts doing the rounds – Sharon made one and has all the other links up on her blog if you want to read them.
Obviously I had to share my views on a few of the issues raised because it seems they are on a lot of people’s minds.
I don’t blog for me! Yes you read that right! I blog the content I want but I no longer blog solely for me! I blog for the single parents who still mail me regularly asking for advise. I blog for the new moms who can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I blog for every single reader who clicks through to see if there is a new post up. Of course I love blogging, it is my release, my therapy BUT I don’t just blog for me.
I don’t blog for free stuff! I was one of the moms moaning a few years ago that brands don’t take us seriously and we don’t get included in product launches etc etc. Then we started being included. We started getting funky invites and “free” stuff to review (or not). Brands were taking us seriously BUT and there is a huge BUT here – it is NOT FOR FREE! Brands send me products because they want me to raise awareness – often it is not said in so many words – but that is what they want – a post, a tweet, an instagram and rightly so! If I never mentioned any of the products I got sent I can promise you they would not send them any more and I would have no right to complain. Sharon mentioned it in her blog post – when we were looking for sponsors we had to send them attendee lists, we had to tell them how we were planning on getting exposure, they wanted the FB page invite, blog posts etc. Starting a blog with the sole aim of getting free stuff is naive. No brand is going to support you if you don’t have a following or a presence they can take seriously!
Blogging is hard work. Really it is. Anyone who has ever tried to set up a self-hosted blog will tell you just how hard it is. Thinking of new content daily, or even weekly is hard. Making sure your grammar and spelling are all correct for fear of the grammar nazi’s coming down on you is hard. Being honest while respecting your families privacy is hard. Blogging is hard!
I have now gone too far away from the place I wanted to be where I mention mommy bloggers and why I feel they do deserve more credit but I shall save that for another time because Suzanne has just arrived with cake!
Share your thoughts with me please!