As you get older you tend to start being a lot more honest about yourself. Its part of growing up and maturing, you get comfortable with who you are and are secure enough if who you are to say “Yes I can be a brat when I want to.”
David started travelling about 3 years ago, the trips have gotten longer and more frequent (but apparently there are only two planned for this year) but the first year (maybe more) of those trips I was a brat. I threw tantrums that were rivaled only by the toddlers featured on the Nanny. I sulked, was difficult, moaned and whinged and whined. I was full of shit. I think David actually scheduled trips just to get away from my atrocious behaviour!
I have gotten over myself and handle his trips a lot better now. I don’t love them but I do handle them with a lot more dignity now, because you know I am nearly forty and tantrums at almost forty are not proper.
Unfortunately for us, and her prospective partners, Kiara is exactly the same. She doesn’t like being put out or asked to accept/deal with any situation that she doesn’t want to. She lets us all know when we are inconveniencing her or forcing* her to do something she doesn’t want to be doing.
Fortunately for us all, Cameron is not at all like this. He rarely complains or moans, I can’t even remember when last he threw a tantrum of any sort. He is happy to sort through his stationery and re-use from last year (Kiara actually laughed at me when I suggested this), he waits patiently for me to fetch him, even if it is later than he finishes but fits in easier with my afternoon routine, he will wait until their is money for his new bag, school pants or whatever it may be. He just handles life’s little challenges a lot better than any of us. This is not to say that he is a walk over, he isn’t. He lets us know when he isn’t happy but its a lot less dramatic that his sister and I. (Jack does seem to have a flair for the dramatic though so we will see how that all works out.)
While it is easier dealing with a less than dramatic child, life is never dull with my girl child.
Do you still throw tantrums? Are your children still throwing tantrums?
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I had to laugh at the thought of you throwing a tantrum! I guess I can also throw one when I have to wake up Nicky to go into Brett’s work to turn a server on and off!!
Heather recently posted…That Time My Toddler Fell on Me and Gave Me a Black Eye and Other Parenting Adventures
I wouldn’t exactly call what I do a “tantrum”. Let’s just say that I’m … effusively expressive of my disagreements with situations?… ;-P
My Michael is also an unbelievably un-bratty child, while the rest have all been known to make us pay for not letting them have their own way. LOL!
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I’m prone to tantrums… and I’m over 40 😉 at least I recognise them now
jenty recently posted…Our family 2014 yearbook
**blush** I’ve been known to have the odd outburst…thanks for a great post…think I need to work on my own little meltdowns! Maybe I need to go to timeout for a half an hour (actually, that just sounds awesome , peace and quiet and not having to do anything!!!)
Thanks,
Claire
LOL Claire – yes I think we all need a time out now and then 🙂
I’m nearly 43 and I still throw tantrums. I know what I want and when/how I want it and don’t get in my way. *period*
LOL.
Yep, I know my faults.
But there is a positive to my tantrums, they are often related to my determination, and trust me, that would be my greatest character strength and weakness. My utter determination, if I’ve made up my mind, nothing and no one will stop me or stand in my way, which can result in tantrums.
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Mmmm….I would say that I am even-tempered. I throw maybe one tantrum a year, which is a VERY good thing, because believe me, once you have seen that side of me you will wish that you NEVER EVER met me. Son2 is the brat in our house. Both DH and Son1 are fairly even tempered as well.
I cannot imagine you being bratty or throwing a tantrum…I just can’t. I don’t think I will handle it very well if my husband had to go away often…I don’t like sleeping alone 😉
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I hate sleeping alone Lynette! Even if the babies do sleep through while he is away, I can’t!