Nothing really prepares you for motherhood. Those first few months with a new baby are absolutely terrifying and overwhelming. When I had my oldest I spent months believing I had broken him. He cried non-stop, I didn’t bond with him immediately and it just felt like I was making one mistake after another. It took me ages to find my feet as a new mother, I am still not really convinced I have actually found them yet.
Fast forward 16 years and I wish I had known then that we would have the relationship that we do now. It would have made life a lot less guilt ridden. Everyone warns you about how hard the teenage years are and I have heard frightening stories from fellow teen moms about the things they are dealing with. So far we have not had to deal with any of that. Yes we have had the usual moodiness, a bit of foot stomping, some slammed doors and lots of sulky faces but that’s about it.
I can honestly say that the teens years have been the best stage of parenting so far. Both the older kids and I have fun together and I love being around them.
I love that my 16 year old still talks to me. A lot about almost everything. Keeping the channel of communication open with all my kids has always been so important to me.
I love the relationship he nurtures with his younger siblings. Some days I think that he is the only one Emma actually likes and responds too.
I love that he is confident enough in himself not to want to conform.
I love that he swims. I know I moan about the impact swimming has on me but I love that it is the sport that he chose to do. It is a great sport that has developed his self discipline, dedication and confidence. It is also a lovely sport to watch, even if the races literally last only a few seconds.
I love that he sets goals for his life and has a plan of action of where he would like to go.
He is in grade 11 this year which means we start applying for university and every day he is one step closer to flying the nest. It is one of those bittersweet moments. When we become a parent, our job is to prepare them to fly but watching them get ready to take that leap is hard.
Do you have a teenager in the house?