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{Week 8} Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty

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Relationships are complex things, friendships especially so. When you are younger they create much angst and stress – are you friends with enough people, the right people, nice people, popular people etc. Then one day your best friend is friends with someone else and suddenly you have to start again, now with all the issues around loosing your best friend. It really was all very complicated, unnecessarily so.

Ansie and I

Fortunately, like with most things, it does get easier as you grow older because you realise a lot of the nonsense that mattered at 16, doesn’t matter at 30 (or 35 if you are a slow learner like me). What does remain the same though is the fact that relationships still do require a certain amount of hard work and effort from both parties. Often as we get older and life gets busier and occupied with kids and kids related stuff, our friendships do tend to suffer because our time is so limited and restricted. As a result we surround ourselves with friends who have similar interests because then we can do those things with them. David has made some great cycling friends – they catch up twice a week for 2 hours when they go out cycling.

For the first time in my life I am very comfortable where I am with my friends. I have a solid group of amazing women that I call friends. It is not a huge group, but I have come to realise I don’t need a huge group, in fact I feel more comfortable with a smaller group.


So this week instead of doing a list of happy things from the past week I am going to list a few reasons why I have the best friends!

  • They are honest with me! I know if I ask their advise or opinion, I will get an honest answer, even if it is one I don’t like or don’t agree with.
  • They always have wine, chocolate or gluten free goodies!
  • They let me vent and at the moment there is a lot of venting going on.
  • They make whatsapp groups where we discuss all sorts of things.
  • They are supportive.
  • They are always there.
  • They have kids so they know how crazy life can get, but we still work around that and manage to fit in time together.
  • They love my family as much as they love me!
  • They have seen me do the ugly cry (some of them a few times).

I am extremely grateful for all the friends I have, particularly Ansie who really has been there with me through “the worst of times and the best of times”


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Reminder that the first photo of my bff, Ansie and I was taken by the amazing Jeanette
I think my friend Luvandi took the second photo!


  1. 12 March, 2015 / 1:05 pm

    Oh I love this post! I am sort off in limbo with friends – i have lovely friends but the two that understand my head so well are both so far away and beyond different time zones
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  2. 13 March, 2015 / 10:06 am

    Even as a child, I never understood the politics of friendships between girls, so I was always a bit of a lone wolf. I still don’t have huge numbers of friends. Lots of acquaintances, lots of casual friends but I can’t say there’s a single girlfriend I consider my closest friend. I have a handful of close friends who fulfill different friendship needs for me. And then there’s David, who is the single best friend I’ve had, ever. And I wouldn’t change the way it is for anything.
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  3. Tracey
    13 March, 2015 / 10:45 am

    Alet, she is the one person who has seen all sides of me ( besides my husband of course) We have a lifetime of memories together, so many giggles and tears have been shared between us. We hold each others deepest secrets and have seen the ugliest side of each other but still she is one of the most beautiful people I have the privilege of knowing and calling my friend.

  4. 16 March, 2015 / 5:03 pm

    Ah yes friends… the family you get to choose. I have good friends but my one true soul friend lives in Dubai and I miss her dearly.

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  5. Julia
    17 March, 2015 / 1:03 pm

    Ai. Friendship (for me) has always been complicated. But that could be because I am complicated and an over thinker. Right now I am having an “I-don’t-have-any-friends” kind of week. But this could just be PMS talking.
    I love the pic of you and Ansie.

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